Genesis 2:23-24 “The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” 24For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. ”
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, And they two shall be one flesh: so then they are no more two, but one flesh.” – Mark 10:7-8
When two distinct personalities with two entirely different sets of life experiences come together, they do not cease to be that person, just because they get married. What must happen in marriage to be successful is a merger between the two parties who are so different. They must take all of their common core of knowledge, their past, future and present and join that pool together to form common ground and goals between them.
Becoming one flesh is more than just the consummation of the marriage in the bedroom. It means that both parties need to surrender their lead positions in life and share the reigns of the relationship. Joining one’s self to another human being is a huge step of faith. The other person comes into a position where they can take our vulnerabilities and use them to manipulate us, and vice versa.
have you ever heard someone talking about an older couple and they say one of the following things about them:
– They are like a salt and pepper shaker set.
– The longer they stay together, the more they look alike.
– The longer they stay together, the more they have become like each other in all their ways.
– They’ve been together so long that he can start a sentence and she can finish it.
– They read each other without speaking.
– They are a match made in heaven.
Two people do not instantly become “one flesh.” It takes work, sacrifice, mutual respect, and responsibility to combine and unite two very different people into one couple.